Moontower Munchies #38
Scott Galloway's addiction to "Explain Using Evo Psych" is always going to keep him in the ballpark, but fouling out over and over. It's not just the swagger of having $$ or prestige when you "wear the pants in the relationship" as those are now worn by women who are better educated and higher earning. It's both more seductive & corrosive than that. Disillusioned males are losing more and more ground, as the war against toxic masculinity leaves them with no good masculine role models to emulate, but lots of bad models who seem to succeed. Where do you go when you have no good options? I was actually an expert witness in a radicalization trial in Florida, attempting to discuss how SEO and algorithmic social makes this worse: https://cbs12.com/news/local/was-a-confessed-murderer-a-victim-of-online-algorithms
There are some amazing female writers writing about toxic masculinity and the consequences it has on our young men (and women). Liz Plank’s book “for the love of men” comes to mind here.
You might find this article interesting as well by Idrees Kahloon. I find it helps contextualize the problems we’re seeing amongst young men https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2023/01/30/whats-the-matter-with-men
It is a big deal if the woman earns more than the man. Divorce statistics are high for this demographic.
Why give a "syndrome" or "disorder" tag to what, in statistical terms, is normal among humans? Americans can't have enough of it. Again, Shakespeare said it better when describing the 2nd and 3rd ages of man (out of seven):
...and then the lover,
Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad
Made to his mistress’ eyebrow. Then a soldier,
Full of strange oaths, and bearded like the pard,
Jealous in honour, sudden and quick in quarrel,
Seeking the bubble reputation
Even in the cannon’s mouth.
Youth is a high-vol, unsupervised time that we adults should nudge children to jump in with courage. Then, it's up to their skills, to our social guardrails (micro and macro) and also to luck that they will come through it unscathed.
If you're looking for a broad view of the landscape for your boys then I would recommend Richard Reeves who writes on these issues at https://ofboysandmen.substack.com/. Although we have somewhat different political philosophies I've found him to be quite good on this topic.